Advice, answers, addictions?

A drink for thought ? (sounded good to me)
When are you put under the umbrella of an alcoholic?
lets start with the law suits, Sue me I like to watch Oprah and Dr Phil, not saying I like them but watching them is sometimes eye opening and also interesting. I was watching a show about substance addicted people and I am starting to wonder if I fall under the title they give of addicted, to food, drink and goodness knows what else (shopping)!
When I am stressed, even if I do not feel stressed I use to head for food, that has changed a little and I just head for my hobby room and make necklaces now but I have noticed these days when I call the child protection or my lawyer afterwards my body feel stressed, I myself do not see when I am stressed or even worried anymore, I think my heart has turned to stone when it comes to my own emotions. So my body feels stressed and I find myself drinking, ok it is not 10 am in the mornings and it is not every day or bottle after bottle, as I said it makes me wonder, am I a "bindge drinker or an alcoholic ? Ask 100 doctors you end up with 99 different answers on what makes you addicted or an alcoholic.
I can go months and months without 1 glass of wine or a beer but under the "right" ( wrong) situations I can down a bottle of wine and brandy without any affects or effort. It is also when my daughter is without me I NEVER and I mean NEVER drink when she is living with me!
So your point of view is ?
What do you think makes an alcoholic?
A binge drinker?
Am I Addicted ? If so what to ?