So it is 2009

So many are putting on their blogs pictures and things they learnt on 2008 so I think I may just do the same, though there is one main thing that happened to me in 2008 and hurt really badly and cut me deep, yeah it is a negative thing so if you do not want to hear it look away now. As I am about to air out some dirty laundry!

To my regular readers you would have noticed that I have not been blogging about my best friend. For months and months and MONTHS I was blogging about her as she was moving from the USA to The Netherlands and I was so excited! best friend of 11 years and we would be able to fight our way through life together. I set up things on this end, ok the spare room was nothing it was a bed in a room with 4 walls and a lot of junk, she said it did not matter as long as she had a bed, we tried to make it pretty before she got here and when she was here she could make some changes. I lined her up a job that would pay well, give her her staying permit and her own apartment if she wanted. woo hoo all was ready!
The day arrived and we got her at the airport, I was over the moon and ohhh man I was happy! (you know where this is heading)
The happiness went downhill fast! I do not know what went wrong and the fact she refuses to answer my emails I still have no fucking clue!
She refused the job I arranged, though when she was in America she said she would do it, no problem I arranged 2 other jobs, no, she did not want them too it was "not her thing" yet now she is back in america she is doing "one of them jobs" that was "not her thing" go figure. So me on less then minimum wage trying to support her and myself and my daughter was somewhat hard, also seeing she was smoking over a packet of cigarettes a day. I tried to make her feel at home, she could do what she wanted, she went out with friends I gave her money though she also had some money coming in through paid blogging which was really good too.
We (Richard and I) planned a week away that she also wanted and on the Monday when we were meant to leave she come downstairs and said " I do not want to come" and went back upstairs where she had been for the last week or 2, she knew earlier she did not want to come yet she let us book it and pay for an extra person, thanks friend.
The minute we left she was on the phone to the USA and I do not mean to a landline and for a short time, in 4 days that we were away she was on the phone more then 5 hours a day to a cell phone. I am not sure of the cost in the USA but here it is not cheap, not 1,2,3 or even as low as 10cents a minute to a landline so a cell phone is fucking expensive, so the last 3 months Richard and I have been fighting to pay off her phone bill and other expenses she has left us with.
A friend I trusted, a friend we helped pay to move here because it was her dream to live here in The Netherlands, a friend who I wanted nothing more but the best out of life for and what do I get for loyalty and trusting her for 11 years of my life?
A big ol' stab in the back and debt so badly we just about lose our house!
So my final words before closing this chapter is.
Jill I trusted you and gave you my all, the fact you can not even answer my emails is just, well childish, all I asked for was answers to "why did you do what you did" and to hear your side of the story, well I am over it. I have no clue what the hell you said to Yvonne and why she also hates me now but if you 2 were really friends you would have told me, so this is 11 years and thousands of euros later I learn my lesson. If you were a best friend and done this to me I do not want any more friends and I really worry about others you call friends, and I can not believe you took some of my cloths too so you knew all along what you were doing, your sad story of not being able to afford food and living in a hotel room with 5 others, I hope it is true and you lost so much weight you can not wear my cloths you took!
Hope you had a great Christmas though I know you did as you have sucked yvonne into your story of having a bad life and she got her blogging community to send you money and vouchers. I worked my arse off holding down 3 jobs to pay off your phone bill that was well above 2000euro, hell it was cheaper for you to fly back to talk to the people in real life.

Happy New year to you all and I learnt, this chapter from 1997 to 2008 is closed.