I was sitting at my desk working on making more necklaces, passing time, trying to relax and get stress out when I started to think about a few things happening in my life and around me.
Friends breaking up, family fighting,best friends not talking to each other, not hearing to often about people falling in love, where is all the love? Do we even know what love is ?
Why do some people stay together for 40 years and others 4 months? Is it just a matter of tolerating and adjusting ?
What is love really ?
How can we use the word so freely, oh I love that icecream, I love those pants on you, I love that colour, oh I love you.
Is saying I love you to your partner said without thought and meaning like it is sometimes said without thought "oh I love this drink"
A lot of the time do we say we "love" things because it is what the person wants to hear?
Why is it most people use the word dislike more then hate and when you ask them they say "hate is such a strong word I do not like to use it, hate has so much meaning" well seeing love is the extreme of hate should we be more careful in using it, if not to explain ourselves better then to save people we "love" from hurt?
So I ask again if any of you care to explain, what is love ?
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Okay. Love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person.
This is how many people approach a relationship. Consciously or unconsciously, they believe love is a sensation (based on physical and emotional attraction) that magically, spontaneously generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. And just as easily, it can spontaneously degenerate when the magic "just isn't there" anymore. You fall in love, and you can fall out of it.
So what is love -- real, lasting love?
Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness.
God (or someone else) created us to see ourselves as good (hence our need to either rationalize or regret our wrongdoings). So, too, we seek goodness in others. Nice looks, an engaging personality, intelligence, and talent (all of which count for something) may attract you, but goodness is what moves you to love.
If love comes from appreciating goodness, it needn't just happen -- you can make it happen. Love is active. You can create it. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). If you can do this easily, you'll love easily.
While most people believe love leads to giving, the truth is exactly the opposite: Giving leads to love.
True giving, is other-oriented, and requires four elements. The first is care, demonstrating active concern for the recipient's life and growth. The second is responsibility, responding to his or her expressed and unexpressed needs (particularly, in an adult relationship, emotional needs). The third is respect, "the ability to see a person as he [or she] is, to be aware of his [or her] unique individuality," and, consequently, wanting that person to "grow and unfold as he [or she] is." These three components all depend upon the fourth, knowledge. You can care for, respond to, and respect another only as deeply as you know him or her.
The effect of genuine, other-oriented giving is profound. It allows you into another person's world and opens you up to perceiving his or her goodness. At the same time, it means investing part of yourself in the other, enabling you to love this person as you love yourself.
"Love is a behavior." A relationship thrives when partners are committed to behaving lovingly through continual, unconditional giving -- not only saying, "I love you," but showing it.
Well, while I had so many different ways to answer your question...I feel that perhaps quibus covered most of them. I think that love is one of life's necessary risks. We all take a risk of loving someone but not being loved in return. I think the best answer to what love is can be found in 1 Corinthians, Chapter 13.
1 If I speak in human and angelic tongues 2 but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal.
2. And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains but do not have love, I am nothing.
3. If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4. Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, (love) is not pompous, it is not inflated,
5. it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury,
6. it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth.
7. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8. Love never fails. If there are prophecies, they will be brought to nothing; if tongues, they will cease; if knowledge, it will be brought to nothing.
9. For we know partially and we prophesy partially,
10. but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away.
11. When I was a child, I used to talk as a child, think as a child, reason as a child; when I became a man, I put aside childish things.
12. At present we see indistinctly, as in a mirror, but then face to face. At present I know partially; then I shall know fully, as I am fully known.
13. So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
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